It is amazing how simple conversations can shape your life. They can affect the day you are having, the mood you are in, the way you perceive another person. Conversation is an essential part of life; however, sometimes finding the time can be remarkably difficult.

My husband and I have two children. We have a four year old son and a one year old daughter, whom we shower with attention and activities and love. I spend the week alternating between activities and preschool runs. We make sure that each child has time with us on an individual basis and that there is an abundance of family time. Last weekend, for example, my son and I went to see a movie while my husband spent time with our daughter. On Wednesdays, we go out to dinner at whichever local place our son’s preschool is fundraising from that week. By the time the weekend rolls around and we are finished with errands and activities, we are just exhausted.

Often, by the time the kids are down for naps, we spend the time getting things cleaned up or finishing up something or another. We often overlook taking time for just us. This past weekend, it was a gorgeous afternoon when I returned home with my son from the movies. My daughter was sleeping and he went down for a nap. My husband was on the front porch, enjoying the warmth. So, I did something I have not done in far too long; I joined him.

I sat down on the front porch with him, and together we talked. We really talked. We enjoyed a cocktail while our kids napped, and we talked about the the things that we needed to do, things that we wanted to do, and things that we may just dream to do. We talked about where we were going to be in a year (which quite frankly is not entirely our decision) and where we are going to end up in two years when the traveling time is done. We talked about things that have been shoved on the back burner, because sometimes that just happens with kids. We joked around, talked about people we knew, and caught each other up on inane stories that get left behind when life is busy.

It was wonderful. Now, don’t get me wrong, we talk on a regular basis. We spend dinnertime discussing our days, spend a little time in the evenings catching up, and the weekend nights spending some quality time together. But it has been far too long since we were able to- and made the time to- just enjoy each other’s company and talk.

How often do you get to spend time like this with your husband? Share with me, I would love to hear how you make time!

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