Hello everyone and happy Friday! I hope everyone has enjoyed their week. It has been an interesting one here- I have been trying to keep up with the 31 Days to Build a Better Blog Challenge, although it may take me a little more than 31 days to complete it all! I have also been dealing with the summer blahs, so I told my kids to go watch television. Then I experienced my first truly negative comment, as I expected would happen when I poured my heart out about the television. I am so grateful to have had so many positive responses to that post, because it really helped me rise above the nastiness shown to me, simply because I told allowed my children to watch tv. Do people not have anything better to do than visit blogs and bash the author? Sheesh. I am trying to take this as a learning experience and help me build a thicker skin. I mean, this is my blog. My views. My opinions. If you do not like what I have to say, click on by people. There is no need to be rude. I remember reading a great blog post about this, but at the moment cannot remember who posted it. I am going to leave my acknowledgment of this to a paragraph, because it has been addressed enough and more thoroughly than I wish to do at the moment.
But, this also has me thinking about how some people do not delete the negative and instead foster debates and craziness on their blogs. They get large traffic hits and much buzz, both positive and negative. I briefly thought, should I leave this truly offensive comment for display and plead my case to garner support and hits?
No. Decidedly, no. I do not want or desire that type of frenzy, so bye-bye negativity.
So, my Aloha Friday question to you would be what do you do when you receive negative comments?
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Good choice..
Twitter: AnotherMomOf2
July 30, 2010 at 1:55 pm
Thanks Debbie
If they are offensive or spam-like, I delete them.
There are a lot of imbalanced people out there who just think that way. What they are thinking is their problem.
Have a great Friday!
http://harrietandfriends.com/2010/07/dont-forget-to-have-some-fun/
Harriet´s last blog ..Don’t forget to have some fun!
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July 30, 2010 at 1:55 pm
That’s very true Harriet- I don’t mind some difference of opinions or suggestions, but being nasty? Why?? Happy Friday!
Twitter: IHaveLanded
July 30, 2010 at 11:19 am
I received a negative comment once. And in response, I dedicated a post in response to it here: http://www.herewhereihavelanded.com/2010/05/its-not-me-its-you-or-is-it.html
Like you, I don’t understand those who feel they need to preach to the author instead of just moving on. There are so many views out there, how exhausting it must be to change everyone’s so that they are exactly like yours. And how unexciting the world is if we all thought about things the same way.
Justine´s last blog ..Water Nymph
Twitter: AnotherMomOf2
July 30, 2010 at 1:59 pm
Justine, I agree with you completely- obviously we do not all think the same, that is not reality. I do not even mind people expressing their disagreement with me- as long as it’s respectful! Looking forward to reading your post, thank you so much for commenting.
Twitter: mcscraps4
July 30, 2010 at 11:31 am
Deleting the post was probably a good thing so that it won’t stir up controversy on your post. I never took that post to mean you wanted someone to tell you how to be a parent, but that you were sharing your feelings about the tv watching. If you would’ve left the post, you can bet the rest of us would have taken to going round and round with the commentor who must obviously be a perfect mom, right? I’m sorry someone hurt your feeling on an already sensitive issue. Hope you won’t dwell on it any longer and know that you are not alone. Hugs to you!!
Claudia McDaniel´s last blog ..This boy
I guess I don’t tend to post very controversial things on my blog, I really can’t think of a truly negative comment I’ve received. I’d try to brush it off. If it was vulgar or inappropriate, I’d delete it for sure – and I definitely hope I wouldn’t use it to gain publicity, I’d really hate for my blog to become that kind of drama.
Jen E @ mommablogsalot´s last blog ..ww- monkey see- monkey do
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July 30, 2010 at 12:43 pm
did you delete the comment? I deleted the obnoxious one I got a few days ago.
liz´s last blog ..Food Find Friday- Vol 12
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July 30, 2010 at 1:58 pm
Liz, I did- You know, when you had mentioned your negative comment, I was so surprised given the nature of your post!! (And your negative commenter was ridiculous too!). I figured that not every mom in the world agrees with me, but the outright insult was shocking. I had just commented on several blogs lately that I had not had experience with this- guess I’ll bite my tongue!
I haven’t gotten one yet. I have gotten a couple that are differing opinions, but they were not rude. I am not sure what I would do. I would Maybe do what Justine (and you) did and make a blog post about it.
I delete the spam ones.
Melanie @ Whimsical Creations´s last blog ..Aloha Friday 33
Twitter: ccnoffi
July 30, 2010 at 5:22 pm
Negative comments aren’t worth extra clicks to me. Luckily, I’ve never had a negative comment. But it wouldn’t be approved. That sucker would be deleted.
Courtney´s last blog ..Before &38 After
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July 30, 2010 at 6:41 pm
Agreed Courtney, so not worth it. Its one of those things that really just took me off guard. This was the only time I ever experienced it, so I suppose it stung a bit more!
I think I have received less than a handful of negative comments, and I believe I have left them. People are entitled to their opinions, and I haven’t been offended yet, just annoyed. If I was ever insulted/offended I think I would remove it.
Becca´s last blog ..Guys and Dolls
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July 30, 2010 at 10:17 pm
Aloha,
I do leave negative comments on. Not to generate controversy but because I believe everyone has a right to their opinions even if against mine.
I will not put through nasty, foul language comments though.
Kim´s last blog ..Why Do You Shop
I’m so sorry that you had that happen.
I delete negative comments. I talked a little about this a few weeks ago in a PYHO post. All they do is cause drama- the comments become a fight about the comment and not about what the true intention of the post is supposed to be. I look at it like it’s my space and if I don’t want to be insulted, I can just delete. I’ve been blasted for doing this, saying that I delete anything that doesn’t agree with me- but that’s not true. I have no problem with people disagreeing- respectfully. Be disrespectful and I’ll delete your comment, unfollow you, and block you from my site. Yes, I actually go that far. Because, there’s no way that I should have to deal wih that sort of thing.
LOL Can you tell I feel strongly about this?
Shell´s last blog ..Pour Your Heart Out- A Glass of Identity
Hi there. Found your blog through one of Shell’s tweets!
My blog is fairly new so I’ve never gotten a negative comment but I surely would delete it right away. I am shocked at the nerve of people to post a rude or nasty comment on anyone’s blog. Most of these people are just cowards hiding behind the comforts of the cyber world because IRL they probably would never do such a thing.
I’m sorry you got that comment. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the t.v thing and I just don’t get why it’s such a hot topic. So your kids watch t.v. Mine do all the time. Like so many said, it’s not necessarily how much your kids watch but WHAT they watch. And this nonsense about watching too much tv will lower your intelligence and blah blah blah. Well my kids would never know Spanish if they didn’t watch Dora, never have such a great vocabulary if they didn’t watch Little Einsteins, never be so good with their alphabet if they didn’t watch Word World and Leap Frog and never know anything, being so young, about science if they didn’t watch Sid.
If they are spam or very offensive, then I delete them. If they are a well thought out and written thought that is just different from my own opinion, I leave it.